Catholic Public Domain Version
Deuteronomy 22:13
“If a man takes a wife, and afterwards he has hatred for her,”
Verse Explanation
A saved explanation for Deuteronomy 22:13.
Plain-language explanation
Deuteronomy 22:13 addresses a situation where a man marries, but later develops strong dislike or resentment toward his wife. The verse sets up the following instructions in the Law for how such a painful change in feelings should be handled—especially to protect the woman from unfair treatment.
Catholic context
Many Catholics understand Scripture as teaching that marriage is meant to be faithful and honorable, even when feelings become difficult. This passage fits within the broader biblical concern for justice, truthfulness, and protection of the vulnerable in the household—echoing the Church’s teaching that a spouse should not be treated as disposable.
Historical background
In ancient Israel, marriage arrangements were closely tied to family life, community standing, and legal protections. Divorce or accusations could seriously harm a woman’s reputation and security. The Law therefore often provided structured guidance to prevent abuse and to require proper accountability before the community.
Reflection
This verse invites us to recognize that resentment can arise, but it should not become a license to harm someone. Love in marriage isn’t only a feeling; it calls for truth, restraint, and responsible actions—especially when tensions grow.
Practical takeaway
If you’re dealing with bitterness or distance in marriage: pause before speaking or acting on anger; seek honest conversation with the other person; ask for pastoral or professional help if needed; and aim for justice and respect rather than punishment or blame.
Prayer
Lord, give us patient hearts in marriage. When love grows cold or resentment rises, help us choose truth, mercy, and faithful action. Protect spouses from unfair treatment, and soften hearts so that reconciliation and charity may flourish. Through Christ our Lord, Amen.